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Wednesday, September 23, 2020
Friends Are Like Diamonds- Precious and Rare
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Have you ever heard of the saying, “Friends are like diamonds, precious and rare?”
In truth, diamonds aren’t particularly rare; in fact, they are the most common precious stone available on Earth. It is the carat, color, cut and clarity of the stone that determines its value. Another words, it’s the quality of the diamond that makes it both precious and rare.
The same can be said of friends. You can have a large amount of people in your life you may define as friends, but the most precious of them—are in fact-- rare.
It is said, “A good friend will help you move, but a RARE friend will help you move a body.” I know. I know. That’s a bit extreme. But, if you are lucky, you will be blessed with a friend who would do virtually anything for you—minus accessory to murder of course (wink).
I’ve had great (girl)friends and amazing (boy)friends though out the years, but a ride or die—I’ve only had one. It’s that person that you can depend on during good times and bad. It’s that individual that will tell you the truth no matter what, but will still support you when you don’t listen. They accept you for what you are—and what you are not. They are there for you during the most celebratory of times and the most heartbreaking of times. Rare indeed.
Trust doesn’t come easy for many of us, including me. Trust is tied to intimacy and having the ability to be vulnerable and accepting. Hurt, pain and disappointment that we’ve experienced in life causes us to create a protective wall—and this can be very difficult to penetrate. My best friend never gave up trying, and she jokes that it took her years to become my friend. That being said—she is also the girl that tried out for high school cheerleader four years in a row until she finally made second alternate her senior year; eventually getting to cheer in one game. Now that’s resilience!
Why are friendships so important in our lives—and why do we form so many of them in the workplace? Well, for one—love and belonging is a basic human need. Friendships satisfy that longing to belong as well as reduces stress, increases happiness, improves overall worth and gives us purpose.
If we spend almost a quarter of our adult lives at work, it seems logical we are going to make some very important connections. These positive connections have a strong impact on overall work satisfaction and productivity. In addition to building stronger teams, employees who develop a personal connection with co-workers feel more secure when sharing new ideas and thoughts—thus allowing for more creativity.
Regardless of the level of friendship or whether it transcends the confines of the workplace, close connections are a necessity to our overall wellbeing. Who better to support and guide you through a crisis or time of change than those experiencing it at the same time? Not only do the connections we develop in the workplace become friends, many times they become like family.
My ride or die is also my mentor, my sister from another mister and the first person I would call in an emergency.
My best friend gave me something that can’t be measured by clarity, carat or cut—she showed me how to be a friend through her loving example. In showing me how to be a friend, I have been able to open myself up to new friendships and connections. It is through her lesson that I was able to form a truly special friendship through another connection I made at work. A connection that has offered me spiritual growth and guidance, along with laughter and joy.
These friendships have lifted me when I could not lift myself. These friendships have encouraged me when I doubted myself. These friendships have covered me in love when my heart has been broken. And these friendships have wiped my tears with their unwavering support during the loss of my Father this week.
Thank you Michelle for being my ride or die. And to Diane, thank you for allowing me the privilege to call you friend.
Now about that body…
Thursday, September 17, 2020
The Empathetic Leader
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Tuesday, September 1, 2020
This Is Personal- What Role Do You Hold in Your Family?
Are you the first, middle or baby of the family? Typically, in the hierarchy of families, the
oldest child is the leader. They are the
one that experienced all the firsts with their parents. They are the ones who have 50,000 photos of
their first year alone. They are also
the ones who paved the way for their younger siblings to enjoy some freedom—by wearing
down their parents with their teenage hijinks.
In my family, I hold a unique place. I am a middle child, but the only girl of
four. Typical of families of my
generation, the girl of the family was the princess and treated as such—mostly
by their Daddy. My Dad was old school
and the boys were certainly treated differently. I wouldn’t say loved any less, but given less
outwardly affection for sure. I was the
apple of my Daddy’s eyes and we held a very special bond—and still do. That being said, his aspirations for me were
minimal, whereas his expectations of my brothers were high—particularly when it
came to sports.
My Dad was the Clint Eastwood of Dads. He was big, strong and when he said jump, you
darn better get to stepping or you were quickly placed over his knee. Well, unless you were me. I could do little wrong. But I did not have 100% success rate of
pulling a fast one over on my Dad.
There is a rare story of when my brothers got one over on me
when I was 4 or 5 years-old. I was
alone in the car with my two older brothers teasing and poking at them, “Ha,
ha, you can’t do anything, Daddy will spank you!” Little did I know, Daddy was standing by the
car and overheard me giving the righteous testimony to my brothers. As the story goes, my Dad looked right at my
brothers and said, “Have at her boys!”
The other time holds a permanent zip code in my memory. Not because I failed at pulling a fast one on
my Dad, but for the look of disappointment on his face when he realized his
Princess was far from perfect—or pure.
I was in high school and asked my Dad if I could stay overnight
at my girlfriend’s house. Spoiler Alert,
I wasn’t staying the night with my girlfriend.
The plan would have worked perfectly except my oldest brother came to
town for a visit and my Dad wanted me home to see him. Lesson number one—if you are going to attempt
to deceive, ensure all parties have clear Intel on the secret operation.
When my Dad called my friend asking for me, she told him I
wasn’t there. In her defense, I didn’t
include her in the plan and he did wake her up with his call. Of course she immediately called me and told
me that my Dad was looking for me. Still
thinking I had a chance to save the operation, I called him back with an
outlandish excuse, oozing of desperation.
“Get home,” was his only response.
I never got grounded, I never got yelled at and I never got lectured—the
look was the punishment and it hurt mightily.
Although my crown was tarnished a bit, I was—and still am—my
Daddy’s little princess. But I was also
given another title in our family—the leader.
I don’t know exactly when I became bequeathed the top role
in the hierarchy of siblings in my family—but apparently that’s the word
amongst my brothers. Perhaps it’s because I’m the only girl. Perhaps it’s because I live(d) closest to my
parents. Perhaps it is because I was
with my Mom and Step-Dad (I hate calling him step- but because I’m referencing
my Dad, I don’t want to confuse you) the entire time he was fighting cancer and
ultimately died. Perhaps it’s because I
didn’t flinch when I volunteered to give my hero a well-deserved send off at
his funeral.
I realize I’m rambling, but I guess this is more for me than
for you. Today is a hard day. It’s one of those days where finding words to
motivate others escapes me. My heart is
elsewhere. My mind is elsewhere. It is on my Dad.
We all attempt to understand our roles in life—both in the
workplace and at home. Some roles we
don’t even believe we deserve—like leader of the family. I am certainly the most sensitive one in the
family—the weakest emotionally. I don’t
think I deserve to be the lead. I don’t
even know if I want to be. But, what
I’ve learned about myself is—when no one else steps forward, I will. Is that a leader? Maybe.
It is said that you are never given more than you can handle. I might debate that. What I can say is that no matter how much you are given, someone is depending on you to handle it. Today, I’m not handling it well—but I know when the time comes—I will take the lead.
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