Coming up with a Motivation Monday this week was difficult as it was on Monday that my Father was laid to rest. Goodbyes are never easy. It seems like I’ve had to do a few of those the past few years.
Saying goodbye is a part of life. As you get older, those goodbyes seem to happen more often—at least in the physical sense. I came across this quote by Rumi that says, “Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul, there is no separation.”
Think about that quote for a moment. Separation is only physical. No one or nothing, including death, can take away what you hold dear in your heart and soul. We have a treasure chest of experiences and memories to cherish long after something ends.
Unfortunately, sometimes in life bad things happen. And when bad things happen we want to know, why. “Why me?” Well, why not you? If you are spiritual, you may believe these things happen for a reason and that it is a part of a bigger plan. Scientists suggest it’s more random and what happens in the universe is without any divine purpose or intent. That bad things that happen to you are not personal—just cause and effects.
Stay with me on this one for a moment. So, if you are to believe that bad things are going to happen, whether divine or random, you should equally believe good things are going to happen, correct? If that is in fact true, why is it that we focus so much on the bad—on the loss—on the negative?
I get it.
It is easy to only see the negative when there is so much pain, hate and uncertainty in the world. I choose to see the positive. It is a choice. I’m not saying I don’t have moments. I certainly do. Sometimes challenges and stressors pile up so high that you stumble over the weight of them. This is when your power to choose is presented. There are not that many things we have ultimate control over, but this is one of them. You can choose to lay under the pile—or you can choose to stand up and face those challenges and stressors head on.
What if I told you today is going to be the best day of your life? What if I told you that today you will be showered with blessings and good fortune beyond belief? What would that day look like to you?
Each day you wake up, you have the opportunity to have the best day of your life-- up until that day has past. Meaning—there is always hope that something good is going to happen. The chances of good things happening to you increases the more you focus on-- good things. If you are searching and seeking out the bad in everything and everyone—there is 100% certainty you will find it.
As a reminder to myself—each day I pull up one of my favorite Tik Toker whose hashtag is #ChooseHappy. She has Stage 4 Breast Cancer and often films during or after chemotherapy. No matter how hard of a day she has with her cancer, her goal is to choose to be happy and to spread positivity—not hate. She always starts off her videos with, “Good Morning or Good Evening Lovelies.” Then she proceeds to give you a messages of encouragement like “You are worthy.” “You are important.” “You are loved.”
Wow! f that doesn’t make you believe there is good in the world, I don’t know what else will. What if each morning, we all #ChooseHappy? No matter what our challenges are, we #ChooseHappy. No matter the loss we’ve experience or the health crisis we are fighting, we #ChooseHappy. What if we not only #ChooseHappy for ourselves, but we spread that message, #ChooseHappy to our family, our friends and our co-workers?
What if—even when we have to say a physical goodbye-- we #ChooseHappy in celebration of a treasure chest of memories and a love that can never be separated?
Please join me and #ChooseHappy!
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I'd like to dedicate this article to all the lives that Breast Cancer has touched.
For more information on breast cancer awareness, visit: www.nationalbreastcancer.org